MOST EYE OPENING SPEECH EVER – Simon Sinek interview with Tom Bilyeu | THE MILLENIAL QUESTION
The questions you ask frame the debate. Take Tony’s famous question: Look at the worst thing that’s ever happened to you and ask “How is this the best thing that’s ever happened to me?” You get what you focus on, and if you’re asking “Why did this happen to me?” or “Why am I so unlucky?” you’ve already solidified your base assumption that whatever happened is bad.
Tony Robbins has said that the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask. I couldn’t agree more. I think this is one of the most under-utilized psychological principles at your disposal. There are two types of questions: questions you ask yourself and questions you ask other people.
That’s where the real magic happens, because simply by changing the base assumptions lying beneath your questions, you can profoundly shift the angle from which you attack the problem (often times uncovering novel solutions), and create a new, and more positive lens through which to view the world. You can’t overestimate the power of asking the right questions.
Are you going to learn that you’re an idiot or that the world is against you, or are you going to learn that you’re amazing for having the guts to try something, but realize now that you need a new skill in your tool belt. That subtle shift will make all the difference in your life.
What you ask, quite honestly, says as much about you, if not more, than your answers. When you ask someone a question you’re demonstrating to them what you’re interested in and what your intentions are. When meeting new people, you want to focus on questions that are upbeat and positive and that show your sincere desire to understand them better. I use the word “understand” on purpose.
Questions for Myself
The questions you ask frame the debate. Take Robbins’ famous question: Look at the worst thing that’s ever happened to you and ask, How is this the best thing that’s ever happened to me? You get what you focus on, and if you’re asking Why did this happen to me? or Why am I so unlucky? you’ve already solidified your base assumption that whatever happened is bad.
That then becomes the frame of reference from which you analyze the situation. That nearly invisible choice (most people don’t even recognize that it was a choice) has massive implications in the narrative that you will tell yourself about that event. The choice of asking Why did this terrible thing happen to me? versus How is this the best thing that ever happened to me? colors the inevitable repetitive thought pattern you will exist in following any major event—good or bad.
That’s how the mind works. It replays good and bad events in a loop until you have fully digested them and put them in a permanent place in your long-term memory and self-narrative.
But whether the event is stored as positive or negative, whether it’s framed as a destructive event or a growth opportunity, is largely based on the questions you ask yourself about it. So choose wisely.
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Tom Bilyeu does a great job of asking the kind of questions that make his guests spill the goods. Recently I got to turn the tables on him. In this interview with Tom we talked about all things leadership, mindset, and why we both dislike the word “authenticity”. We also discuss the “follow your passion” trap, and why doing so is actually terrible advice.
If you’ve read anything I’ve written, if you’ve ever heard me on an interview, you’ve heard me say many times that I believe that entrepreneurship, business, and leadership are about something far greater than money, success, or even being the next entrepreneurial unicorn. Successful business is about being in touch with your purpose!
A successful business that is in touch with your purpose can become a way for you to positively impact the world.
But passion without purpose will turn you into a Tasmanian devil, burning through everything and getting nowhere!
Tom Bilyeu is the co-founder of 2014 Inc 500 company Quest Nutrition — a unicorn startup valued at over $1 billion — and he’s the co-founder and host of “Impact Theory”. Tom’s mission is the creation of empowering media-based IP and the acceleration of mission-based businesses and he’s out there doing it day after day!
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Ron Fry has written more than forty books, including the bestselling 101 Great Answers to the Toughest Interview Questions and 101 Smart Questions to Ask on Your Interview. He is a frequent speaker and seminar leader on a variety of job-search and hiring topics and the founder and president of Career Press. Fry lives in New Jersey with his family.
